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Monday, March 14, 2016

Can We All Stop Saying This Please?

I spent this past weekend at the SOAR conference talking about mom life with 700 other women, which was enormously fulfilling and encouraging. It also meant I met a lot of new people and had lots of conversations with strangers.

One such conversation was about 2 minutes long and managed to get me thinking for the rest of the day. A friend and I were talking about the blogs we enjoy when a friend of hers (who didn't know me) walked up. She heard about 30 seconds of our conversation before declaring, "oh I don't have time for all of that..." and walking off. 

I'm sure she said it without thinking, just an offhand remark, never intending to insult me or suspecting I would take it personally, but she stopped me in my tracks. 

Because here's the thing: I don't have time for all of this either. 

I don't have time to read 50 books a year. I don't have time to work out, or sew, or volunteer, or cook from scratch, or any other one of a dozen things I could list. 

No one has time for insert the thing you don't have time for here

But we do all get 24 hours a day. I haven't yet met a human who has an extra special hour to devote to their personal interests. So you see, everyone has time for insert the thing you don't have time for here. 

make the time to write. I make the time to read. And I bet you make the time to do many things that I might be tempted to dismiss with an offhand remark of my own. 

If we think the choices of others are frivolous or beneath us (which is what we actually communicate with the comment "I don't have time for that") then let us recognize that is in fact what we are saying.

But let's not convince ourselves we don't have time for that. We all have the same 24 hours a day. We get to choose how we spend our days and fill our lives, you have no less time than me. 

What is it you think you don't have time for? 


  1. Katie,
    So very well said! Do I detect a slight Davidson attitude in what I read, or is it just me? LOVE IT! We all make time for the things that are important to us. And those important things change as we grow and change. Different priorities at different stages of life. Maybe she should slow down enough to enjoy life a little.

  2. here are some things i DO have time for: you, wine night, your blog, family dinners

    1. We agree on all accounts. Glad someone else has their priorities straight.

  3. amen sister. it's all about the choices. the things we value - we will spend time on.


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